PART III - Return to the Promised Land--Auburn, Alabama, 1966
All the Days of My Life (Continued)
Trying to adjust
Our return home to Belo Horizonte was, of course,
delightful. To see my relatives again –
my mother, vovó Isamira, Lica, Lucia, Helcias and all the Pedersolis, was
wonderful indeed. We basked on the love and admiration of
all. John and Miriam so grown up, and
little Andrew, so lovable, became the stars for some weeks. I don’t exactly remember when we started
calling Andrew by his first name – Marcello.
I suppose because Andrew was more difficult to pronounce, and Marcello
was a common name in Portuguese. But the
baby had no problems switching, and Marcello he became to all of us.
A couple of days before Christmas I went to Rio to
pick up Waldir at the airport. Dr.
Waldir Pedersoli, DVM, PhD was beaming with pride and pleasure to be back in his
beloved Brazil. He had done well, and
his advisor had told him if he would like to return and apply for a position, he’d
be welcomed. But he really wanted to be
back home, and try again, and contribute to the development of our native
country. We had one year’s reprieve
before our green cards would expire.
We talked about his plans for the future as we rode
the bus back to Belo Horizonte. We acted
like newlyweds, kissing and snuggling, in our seats, all the way there.
My grandmother, now living alone in a big house,
offered the apartment in her backyard.
It was convenient, while we waited to decide what to do. We did our best to overcome the readjustment
to a place that seemed so different from what we remembered. The kids seemed to have less difficulty than
us, basking on the attention of the adults, and playing with their cousins.
The political and cultural situation was one of the problems to
contend with. In 1964, the government of
President João Goulart had been overthrown in a military coup. He had been my hero in the late 1950s and
early 1960s, and one of the reasons I had doubts about leaving Brazil for the
U.S. in 1962, as I mentioned before. To
us young students at the time, Jango stood for the people, against the ruling
higher classes, for better public education, for taxing the rich corporations
according to their profits, for voting reform, so that being illiterate, or of
another race, would not prevent one from voting. But we also knew that, because of his liberal
left leanings, he fell into the traps of the American anti-communism hysteria.
Thus, when we returned in 1966, the conservative ARENA (National
Renewal Alliance Party) was in full domination of the politics of the
country. In other words, the military
ruled in a repressive government much like other dictatorships in Latin
America. We heard of disappearances,
tortures, violent police clashes, and other evils. I was appalled.
Nevertheless, we bought a nice house, enrolled John in the
American School at the Consulate, Miriam went to Kindergarten, and we tried our
best to reenter the familiar routines, and get over our cultural shock.
It was more difficult for Waldir.
Back to his old Teaching Assistant position, working with the same old
head of department who, even after 4 years, had no intention of retiring or
stepping down, he found out that there was little acceptance for the ideas of a
young, bright, knowledgeable, U.S. trained scientist. And the salaries, under this regime, hadn't been raised for years, and payment was consistently late.
To complicate things even more, I found out, surprised, that I was
pregnant, and contrary to other times, I had already missed two periods, so I
was eight weeks when I finally went to the doctor for confirmation. The test was positive and I thought “Now,
God, what are you doing? Did I ask for
this?” but, of course, I was thrilled. I
tried to stay calm, and off my feet as much as possible, but with an active
nine month old crawling all over the floors and getting into everything, it was
difficult. Around the 12th
week I started spotting and cramping. I
called the doctor and he said to come to the hospital. I went with my mother, and after examining me
the doctor decided to admit me for observation.
I had never come to this point, so I was concerned. They ran various tests, put me on
progesterone, and waited for the results.
The pregnancy test came out negative, and the ultrasound indicated fetal
death. I was devastated. I was sent home, to wait for a spontaneous
miscarriage, and in deep depression I lay in bed, cramping and spotting, but no
resolution. I was getting really sick,
feverish, when it was decided to admit me again for surgery.
Afterwards, I went back to my bed, silent and morose. For ten days I lay there, while friends came
and went, and Lica came to take care of me.
I could see the flowering lemon tree outside my window, and saw its
blossoms turn into little lemons that grew into big green limes, and I still
lay in bed. I don’t remember what
finally got me out of my funk, but perhaps was the day Waldir told me we needed
to start thinking about going back to the U.S.
Things weren’t really working out to his satisfaction, the tense
political climate, the repression and control of academia being
regrettable. He knew that there were
some good Pharmacology positions open, and if I would help write the letters
and get the Curriculum Vitae together, he’d appreciate it.
“I suppose you won’t mind going back, do you?” he asked with his
ironic smile. “What would you prefer?
California, New York, Alabama? Not
Illinois. Too cold!”
I hugged his neck, smiling, at last. “Anywhere!
Let’s go!”
He brought the position announcements home and I proceeded to
write the letters and do the mailings to UC Davis, Cornell, Auburn, and
Tuskegee. Strangely enough, Alabama seemed
the only State with two Schools of Veterinary Medicine. Interviews were done by phone and every one
would like for him to go for an interview.
All except Auburn and Tuskegee that offered him their Assistant
Professor positions sight-unseen. He opted
for Auburn, whose School ranked the 2nd best in the country, the
weather was hot and humid in the summer and pleasantly cool in the winter. It was also in the South, closer to Brazil.
Our relatives weren't pleased, especially my mother-in-law. She blamed me, for instigating the
return. It’d be so nice to have the
family together, watch the children grow, and how about my grandmother? She was in her 80s. Wouldn't I feel guilty if she died, like vovô
Arthur, and I'd never see her again?
By mid-August we had sold our house and everything in it. I saved my books and records to be sent
later. And we flew to Miami where we
rented a car for the trip to Auburn, Alabama.
We felt like Alice in Wonderland!
Back to nice roads, comfortable car, burger joints with playgrounds for
the kids; our first breakfast of grits, sausage, bacon and eggs. Florida sunshine and beaches… Fried chicken and okra, big fat buttermilk
biscuits and sweet tea… Peanut
butter! The only foreign thing
was the southern drawl our Midwestern ears weren’t accustomed to.
Southern Alabama was lush with pine forests and the kudzu sculpted
topiary gardens everywhere amazed me. In
the evening the choruses of cicadas, frogs and owls, as we sailed through the
bayous in our Ford Galaxie, filled the warm air heavy with humidity and earthy
odors. We finally got to Opelika, after asking directions at a roadside
restaurant where nobody knew how to get to Auburn. Riding down the road toward the university, I
wondered where all the houses were, since all I could see were trees. I finally spotted them nestled among the
pines and oaks.
In 1966 Auburn was a small college town, compared to the sprawling
University of Illinois at Urbana.
Evening was closing down on us, and all we could do was go down College
Street, see the quaint Sanford Hall, buy some milk and bananas for the kids,
and go settle down at the Heart of Auburn Motel as we were directed to by the
University.
We would spend over 20 years at our new home in Auburn,
Alabama. Albeit not perfectly happy in
our relationship, those years were rich in spiritual and intellectual
growth. In the academic and Catholic
communities we found colleagues and friends, teachers and pastors that helped
us to grow, and learn, stretch our minds and our horizons, become good citizens
of our adopted country.
In just a few weeks after our arrival we had bought a house on
Ryan Street, furnished it with everything we needed, simply but comfortably,
bought a VW Beetle, made friends with our neighbors, enrolled John and Miriam
in public school and started living the American dream.
My Assistant Professor of Veterinary Pharmacology husband charmed
everyone in his department and seemed to be engaged in being a good teacher and
an excellent researcher.
Money was a little tight, after the expenses of settling
down in our home, so I decided to look for
a job. I knew that my knowledge
of foreign languages was an asset, but suddenly I found out that I was pregnant
yet again, and this time I was going into the 16th week without
miscarrying. My new gynecologist and obstetrician at the local hospital was
hopeful, treating me with progesterone and other hormones, as I tried to
restrict my activities, with renewed hope.
One day, a black woman knocked at our door, and asked if I needed
household help. Her name was Louise, and
she was a charmer. We hired her to help
care for the kids and help keep the house clean. I went for a job interview, and was hired as
an administrative assistant.
The week that I was to start working, the worst
happened. Cramps, bleeding, water
breaking, and an emergency admission to the hospital. This was the worst miscarriage I had ever
had, and I was in great distress and in danger of bleeding to death. The little baby I had already named Michael
was dead, and I went into surgery to save my life.
After the pain and disappointment came the
depression. I was thankful I had Louise
to look after the kids and help me to recover.
I had to call my would-be employer and explain that I had a health
emergency and surgery, and had to recover my health before I could go to
work. Unfortunately I could not start
then.
My physician, Dr, Russell, had a long talk with
Waldir and I about my condition and the danger I’d be running having these
miscarriages. He advised one year of
treatment with hormones, getting healthy again, and then there was a procedure of tying up what
was left of the cervix to try to go to term, or as close to term as we could
go. I agreed to that.
Growing in knowledge
Waldir encouraged me to continue my education,
supposedly to get my mind off getting pregnant again, and I enrolled at the
University, as a languages major. Since
I had several years of French, I was placed on the advanced classes of my major
and chose German as my minor.
The first quarter at Auburn University was rough; I had been away from
any schooling in years. My only strength was that I had always been an avid
reader of world literature. I enjoyed
the classes, was engaged in the discussions, but proved to be almost unable to
take tests. Multiple choice answers
baffled me completely. I had some kind of disability, in this regard, but my teachers did their best to accommodate my needs. My writing
ability saved me on the term papers and creative projects, though, and I
completed my first year with reasonable success. Actually I did so well on the English
literature courses that I was invited to take a double major in English and French
and added a second minor to my German – Secondary Education – which would help
me to be certified as a languages teacher.
St. Michael’s Church was the only Catholic Church in
town – being the Catholic student’s center it was a very active community. Daily noon Mass became an oasis in the middle
of my day. The parish was involved in
growing into the knowledge and the implementation of the Second Vatican
Council’s mandates. We had Bible
studies, neighborhood church groups, and Family Life groups. The Vincentian Fathers were good pastors,
involving the parish in the ministries.
One day Fr. Gene approached me and said that he had
heard that I played the guitar. Surprised, I said that I played a little.
“We need to experiment with folk Masses,” he said,
showing me the new People’s Song Book.
“We need to make our liturgies more appealing to the students and young
people.”
“OK, I’ll bring my guitar, and we’ll try,” I said.
That was the beginning of my involvement with the
music ministry in the church.
“All I have is yours,” I said to my Lord. “I’ll honor and praise you with my voice and
with the sound of the strings!” Soon,
other, more skilled guitar players joined me, and we had a full-fledged folk
Mass, to the students’ great delight.
I got a job at the Ralph Brown Library as a student
assistant, based on my experience at the Classics Library in Illinois. With a new sense of my own worth as a person
endowed with gifts that I could use for the kingdom of God and the good of all
his people, my self-esteem, squelched by so many years of disappointments and
suffering, increased, and I dedicated myself to every service and ministry I
could contribute to. I was a very busy mom and student, but the kids thrived in school, Louise was a great helper, and I was on the go.
The Gift Ungiven – James Michael (April 17, 1970)
John and Miriam were excellent students, and
Marcello was growing into a loving and lovable little kid, adored by his nanny
Louise.
Waldir was very busy teaching
and doing research, and our relationship, although leaving much to be desired,
was stable. He was far from being
involved in church things, and I knew he wasn't totally thrilled with my
involvement. This saddened me, but I was
starting to come to a place of confidence in myself, in knowing what I could
and wanted to do with my own dreams for my life.
I forged ahead on my own, and educated our
children on the faith I had received as gift from God. They grew in grace and the knowledge of
Jesus. I never failed to invite my
husband to Sunday Mass and to church events.
He wasn't interested, but he did attend John and Miriam’s First
Communion Mass, Christmas, Holy Week and Easter liturgies. Occasionally, he would give in, and agree to
go on a family retreat, or a meeting in our friends’ homes. But most of the time he was ill-at-ease in
church meetings.
During my sophomore year I had my first break in my
fledgling library worker career. There
was an opening as a full time library assistant position in the Social Sciences
department. I was hired. Working full time meant that I had to take
fewer classes, but we could use the extra income, and I enjoyed learning the
different library management tasks.
I was surrounded by friends at work, at school, and
at church. Life was good. Then tragedy struck at home in Brazil. There had been a terrible accident. My beloved cousin Norton and his fiancée Elsa had
been killed in a head-on collision on a road trip. My aunt Neusa was in critical condition and
her husband, my uncle Jofre, was also badly hurt. I was grief-stricken. There was no way I could travel there to be
with my aunt. All I could do was
pray. I spent hours alone in the stacks,
rearranging books and periodicals. The
automatic task of reading call numbers and rearranging the shelves was soothing
to my depression.
Late 1969 I got
pregnant once again. I was by that time
callous about expecting the worst. But
the weeks went by and I did not miscarry.
Dr. Russell, my gynecologist/obstetrician, was hopeful. He advised that I should have the procedure
of securing the incompetent cervix with a surgical procedure called a cervix cerclage. When I made it to the 12th
week without miscarrying, my cervix was stitched up closed. Everything went well, and my hope of finally
having another child was revived.
Previously, when I was interviewed
for the Social Sciences library position, the director, a real southern
gentleman, commented, tongue-in-cheek:
“Mrs. Pedersoli, you
are a young married woman. How do I know
you are not going to get pregnant right after I hire you?”
“Dr. Partridge,” I
responded pleasantly, “I can tell you one thing. If that happens, I will be tickled! I couldn't hope for anything better!”
He laughed, and signed
the papers. I continued working, feeling
well and hopeful, as the months went by and the cervix held. The kids were looking forward to their new
baby brother. I named him James Michael
and we started planning for the birth. I
was elated. Taking violin lessons on my
grandfather’s violin, I sang lullabies to the dream child that leaped in my
womb playfully.
We made it to the 18th
week, and then I started leaking fluid.
Dr. Russell checked me out, and wasn’t too concerned. I was sent home to be in bed rest as much as
possible. My neighbor Sheila and my
other friends took turns caring for me.
I took solace in knowing that actress Sophia Lauren was going through
the same trial, trying to have a baby.
Waldir was uncooperative. To him
the whole thing was a nuisance…
His attitude annoyed
me, but I hung on, determined to give Jamie a better chance to life. We made it to the 19th week, but
one morning, as I got up to go to the bathroom, the water gushed out and I saw
blood. Rushed to the hospital, I was
treated with muscle relaxants and other measures to keep the baby in a few more
days. My friends joined in prayer.
At the beginning of the
24th week, Dr. Russell told me he was concerned about an infection,
that he thought the baby was already a good size, and that it probably would be
best to carefully induce the delivery, ever so slowly. We discussed the fact that St. Jude’s
Hospital in Montgomery was doing miracles in premature baby survival. If needed, Jamie could be taken there for
newborn preemie care.
We agreed, and by the
end of that week the cervix stitches were removed and I was put on an
intravenous drip with the induction hormones.
The delivery was going to be a delicate procedure, to put as little
stress on the baby as possible. I was
taken to the delivery room in a daze. I
pushed when told to push and held on when so directed.
Finally the child was born, and my hellish
nightmare started. I heard his weak cry,
like a little kitten meowing. I was
told nothing; instead, I was given a massive dose of what I believe must have
been Demerol. I could not move, or
speak, I could hear the voices but could not understand what was being
said. I was wheeled back to my room, and
when I arrived my roommate asked what had happened to me. Through the fog in my head I heard the nurse
say “she had a Siamese baby” when what she had said was actually “she had a
premature baby.” The enemies of my soul
were at work. I was in a tourbillion of darkness
and sorrow. I had selfishly insisted in
having another child, when I already had three to care for. I was being now punished for defying God’s
will. I had brought disgrace to my
family and my children. How would we
ever cope with raising a Siamese child? Unable to fight off the demons in the
dense fog of my brain, I surrendered to despair.
When I finally started
to recover my senses, out of the grasp of the drugged stupor I found myself in,
I was in my room, and I saw Waldir standing at the window, looking out, a sad
look in his face. I gathered strength to
ask in a feeble voice:
‘’It is bad news, isn't it?”
He came over to the
bed.
“No,” he said,
excitedly. “It’s good news! The baby is alive and well, kicking his
little legs in the ICU. He is all pink
and beautiful!”
An incredible joy
flooded my whole being.
“Jamie?” I asked.
“Yes!” and he kissed me
gently.
“Can I see him?”
“Not right now. They want him isolated the first few hours,
so he doesn't catch any germs. Certainly
by tomorrow morning we can go see him.
I’ll go home and tell the kids.
They are anxiously waiting. You
get some rest now, my darling.”
I could not sleep that
night. I sang praises to God in my heart
and prayed for Jamie’s life, begging God to keep him safe, in the palm of His
hands.
The TV in my room
showed the Apollo 13 spacecraft, crippled by an explosion onboard, en route to
splash down in the Pacific. In my mind,
I prayed for their safety, as a good sign that Jamie too would make his safe
landing, and survive. The full moon rose
in front of my window when the cheers went up for the astronauts.
Early in the morning I
got up, took a shower, got all dressed up, ready to go meet my son. The first person to come into my room was my
doctor’s partner. He had seen me a couple
of times, when Dr. Russell was on vacation, but I didn't particularly like
him. He was my roommate’s doctor and
went over to check on her. Afterwards he
turned to me.
“You look well,” he
said.
“I feel great!” I
said. And then I asked:
“How’s my baby?”
He frowned. “They haven't told you?”
“Tell me what?”
“The baby died…”
“No!” I denied. “He made it.
He’s well, my husband saw him kicking in his ICU…”
Coldly, Dr. Jekyll
picked up the phone by the bed and called the nursery. He turned to me:
“The baby is dead. Sorry.”
As I exploded in tears
of grief, Dr. Russell, Waldir, and one of our priests walked in the door. They had been waiting for Father to get there
so they could break the news to me, gently.
I went to pieces. Dr. Russell had tears in his eyes as he hugged
me, and then left, after his partner.
“I want to see my
baby!” I screamed after him. He gave the
orders, and they brought him to me, wrapped in his baby blanket -- a perfectly
beautiful child. Soft dark downy
hair. Tiny hands with nails in his
fingers. Baby doll little pink toes. I held him in the crook of my arm, made the
sign of the cross on his forehead.
“God
bless you, James Michael, my little angel.
Mommy loves you. Fly on, back to
God…”
Coping with the
post-partum depression was horrible. I’d
burst into tears every time I’d see a baby.
The kids were terribly disappointed.
They hugged me, and kissed me, brought me breakfast in bed and flowers
from our rosebushes. I thanked God I had
them, but I wished I was dead too. I
stayed in my bed for days, gloomily mad at Jesus for denying me the desire of
my heart.
One morning Fr. Bud
came over to bring me communion and pray for me. Waldir had been extremely insensitive to my
pain, as he left for work that morning. Grief
exploded from my heart, as I sobbed and asked God to just take me too. I wanted to die so badly. I suppose it scared Fr. Bud. He couldn't handle it, and just left. Louise came in and took me in her arms, and
comforted me.
“Now, now, Miz Ellie,
you got to get ov’r this thing, honey.
Yo’ chillen needs you. You jus
pray to Jesus and he might of give you anothe babe, but even if he don’t, God
loves you and wanna you to be a good mama to the uns you got already.”
She rocked me in her
arms to the tune of “Swing low, sweet
chariot..” I cried the rest of my tears
in her embrace.
At my next appointment,
Dr. Russell was very kind and apologetic.
He mentioned my request to have the baby sent to St. Jude’s hospital in
Montgomery, but he really thought Jamie looked quite strong, and had every
chance of surviving. But he had just
stopped breathing and unfortunately nobody noticed that.
I wanted to know if we
could try again.
“Yes,” he said. “We were so close this time. But I recommend that you go to a fertility
specialist in Columbus, Georgia. Dr.
Jarrell is very good.”
I had a few weeks of
sick leave, so I lost no time. Off I
went to Columbus and an appointment with Dr. Jarrell, who then took over my gynecologic
care. He was a real southern gentleman,
with a melodious southern accent, as gentle as his voice.
He examined me, and
designed a plan for another trial at pregnancy.
As soon as I recovered, and was strong again, he would perform plastic
surgery to remove scar tissue from the cervix, and when I got pregnant they would
again encircle the cervix with a tightening device. Meanwhile, he prescribed birth control pills,
until I healed.
I was insanely reckless,
though, and made love to Waldir furiously for the next three months. I needed to feel pregnant.
Dr. Jarrell wasn't pleased,
when I tested positive. The next three
months would be critical, as we waited to see if the uterus held on. I quit my job at the Library as I finished
the quarterly final exams, and stayed home resting, determined to see this one
to term. The cerclage surgery was
scheduled as I reached the 14th week, and Waldir drove me to St.
Francis Hospital in Columbus, Georgia for the procedure. He wasn't very supportive.
Everything went well,
and I was supposed to stay in the hospital for one week, in total bed rest. I was fully cooperative and determined this
time; more determined than prayerful, really.
I felt safe in that Catholic hospital, with the nuns coming to visit and
praying for me. God had failed me with
Jamie, and now I knew I could to do this on my own.
Four days later, though,
I started cramping. The doctors fought
back with muscle relaxants and progesterone, among other things. The cramps didn't stop. Dr. Jarrell talked to me about some good
results that had been obtained stopping a miscarriage by dripping alcohol
intravenously, slowly. I’d get slightly
drunk, but it was something to try. They
put me on it in the morning, and by noon the cramps had all but stopped. By evening, I was in a drunk stupor, and went
to sleep, only to wake up in a sweat, and shivering. I called the nurse. By the time she got to me I was shaking
uncontrollably.
“Oh no, honey, you
don’t have no DTs,” she assured me. “I
think you have a temperature. I’ll get
you some Tylenol.”
“Yes, but please call
Dr. Jarrell. Tell him what’s going on…”
“It’s 3 in the morning,
sweetie, and you are just anxious and nervous.
The doctor will be here in the morning.”
She left for the Tylenol.
Just then I felt a
painful contraction and fluid gushed out.
I hung on the call button. She
returned with the Tylenol as I cried in frustration.
“My water just broke!”
I shouted.
She peered between my
legs.
“Don’t worry,
honey. It’s not fluid, you just voided
in your stress! Calm down!”
“If you don’t get a
doctor immediately, I will yank this thing out of my arm right now!”
I sat up, ready to get up, out of bed. She rang the panic button and soon the doctor
in charge came in, as I had another big contraction and the baby came out. She gasped, as I looked, sorrowfully, on yet
another lifeless, little baby boy.
Bleeding heavily I was
wheeled to the surgery room where the anesthetic knocked me out of my misery,
and another curettage was performed to save my life.
I was very sick for a
few days, and when he took me home Waldir said, sternly:
“Leni, I don’t know if
you’re intent in committing suicide, or what.
But I am no longer going to be part of this madness. If you don’t think your three children need you,
then you’re free to go find another partner for your craziness. Not me.
I’m having a vasectomy.”
I felt chastised, this
time, and humbly asked forgiveness for my reckless selfishness. “Thy will be done, Lord. Please forgive my pride.”
Dr. Jarrell was kind,
but firm, when I went for my post-surgery appointment.
“Mrs. Pedersoli, it’s
my judgment that you've given this as many tries as you could. If you insist on going on this track you will
die trying. It’s obvious that your
cervix will not hold a pregnancy any longer.
I recommend you have a hysterectomy.
Your uterus is badly scarred, and you might develop cervical cancer.”
We set the date, after
I’d recovered from anemia, and the after effects of my alcohol binge, but just
a couple of weeks before that, I came down with appendicitis. Back in Columbus, I had a young Dr. Molnar
(who I’d meet again in the future) do the appendectomy. He promised to do a bikini incision that
would never show up. Two weeks later he
said I was fit to go on a road trip to California with the family. That was Waldir’s attempt to get my mind off
having another child. It worked.
Off we went to Mobile,
New Orleans, Route 10 to San Diego, where we visited the famous Zoo, to Los
Angeles where Waldir attended the Veterinary Medical Association meeting and I
took the kids to Disneyland and Hollywood.
Then up the coast to San Francisco, Yosemite, and the Grand Canyon, and
back home through Colorado and New Mexico.
Exhilarated, we got
home just in time for me to rest for a few days and head back to the hospital
where my dream of having another child came to an end.
It was during the days of my recovery that I had an epiphany. I started reading Betty Friedan's The Feminine Mystique and page after page I excitedly found myself and my plight as a woman described in the book. I stayed up all night to finish it, and in the morning I was ready to assert myself and take on the world.
For the first time ever I started thinking of myself as a separate being, gifted and strong, independently of my husband. I saw myself as a young teenager with a cause and a dream I believed in enough to fight for it and defend my right to choose. And I saw myself as a young woman, abused and humiliated, even suicidal.
I liked the teenager best. I decided to help that teenager to grow into a strong woman who, with God's help, would use all her gifts and talents first in His service, and in the service of my family, community, and country. Healed and strengthened by my new self concept, I was ready to take on the mission.
For the first time ever I started thinking of myself as a separate being, gifted and strong, independently of my husband. I saw myself as a young teenager with a cause and a dream I believed in enough to fight for it and defend my right to choose. And I saw myself as a young woman, abused and humiliated, even suicidal.
I liked the teenager best. I decided to help that teenager to grow into a strong woman who, with God's help, would use all her gifts and talents first in His service, and in the service of my family, community, and country. Healed and strengthened by my new self concept, I was ready to take on the mission.
At Waldir’s urging, I
went back to school full time to finish the B.A.
My senior year was a busy one, as I took a
full load of courses, submerging myself in the French, English, Italian,
Spanish and German literatures, as well as Astronomy, Biology, and Math
requirements.
One course especially
became my favorite – Advanced Composition, taught by Mr. Jerry Roden.
Jerry was a wonderful,
gifted teacher, who motivated his
students to love the English language, demanding correct spelling, rhetoric, and perfect form. Recognizing the talented ones, he
brought out the writing skills in his young (and in my case older) students.
We had to keep a daily
journal, which, in my case, was an easy task, since I already did this almost
faithfully.
I found a new joy
walking to Haley Center in the mornings, through the shady streets lined with
pecan trees. Thankful for the gift of
trees, I’d pick the nuts as I walked, and munched on them all the way-- food
for my brain.
I wrote faithfully on
my journal, glad to please Mr. Roden. With his gentle mentoring he encouraged me to write, honing and sharpening my skills, even trying poetry. Under his direction we started a poetry group where we shared our efforts and critiqued each other's poems and stories. Members of the Poets Circle formed the editorial board of Auburn University's student magazine The Auburn Circle where we proudly published our creations.
Before the end of the term, Mr. Roden had arranged a niche for me as a columnist for the University's Alumni Association newspaper -- The Auburn Alumnews. God bless his soul! I will see you in heaven, Jerry Roden!
Before the end of the term, Mr. Roden had arranged a niche for me as a columnist for the University's Alumni Association newspaper -- The Auburn Alumnews. God bless his soul! I will see you in heaven, Jerry Roden!